The judging of people, the analysis of their behaviour and
deconstruction of their character is an unconscious activity every person
carries out with impeccable perfection each time they meet a person. It is only
when explicitly told not to judge, does the realisation strike that the action
of judging has already been completed. Why does one judge the other when
judging people is considered wrong? Could it been an evolutionary instinct,
embedded deep within every being, to be able to steer clear of possibly
dangerous people? It could be.
But the notion that judging people is wrong is clearly an elitist
hypocritical idea, trying to appear falsely accepting of every person without
outright announcement of disapproval. Judging characters is necessary for only
that allows opinions to be formed. What is necessary is not to get judgemental.
For how long do those opinions derived from calculated thought
remain correct is a question of importance. People change over time and so
should the opinions formed about the new them. It is also possible that people
change not just for the better, but for the worse too. In such a scenario
judging them becomes quite torturous. Though an unconscious activity, its
effects start showing on the conscious mind as well. Confusion arises about the
righteousness of the act. Though their changed character is glaring us in the
face, the mind refuses to let go of the previously accepted opinion but cannot
stop forming new ones. What then is the right thing to do? Should it now be
accepted that judging people is wrong after all?
Judging people and forming opinions aren't ever wrong and neither
are the confusions arising out of continued judgement of ever changing
characters. It must be understood that opinions formed are meaningful to only
the opinion former. It neither affects not changes the people being judged.
There is no correct way nor is there any right situation to judge people for
there is no yardstick to measure the extent of correctness or wrongness. It is
extremely subjective and highly diverse. Different people behave differently in
different situations. The same person might behave differently if faced with
the same situation twice! Hence this imaginary yardstick is different for
judging the same person again. Understanding the shortcomings of this supposed yardstick
and knowing that what meets the eye need not be truth in entirety, elevates the
mind to a higher, more conscious state.
